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Some important things to know:

Not Straight? Not Alone.

Like it says.

People disagree a lot on what percentage of the population is “gay.” Some say as little as 3%, others estimate 10%, others give even higher numbers. It probably depends a lot on how you define “gay.” The point is, even if there’s only 100 kids at your high school, there are at least two other gay kids, and probably more once you count the kids who only think of themselves as “kinda gay” or “kinda lesbian” or “maybe bi.” Which brings up the next point…

It’s okay not to label yourself.

If you don’t feel like the words “gay” “lesbian” “bisexual” or “transgendered” work for you, you don’t have to use them. Make up your own word or string of words, or refuse to let words control you. After all, life is complicated and you’re complicated: why should there be only one word to define you?

…And it’s okay to label yourself.

Words are powerful. Just as they pull people apart, they can pull people together. They can make life seem more comfortable and clearer.

Their problem with you IS their problem, not yours.

Yes, it could be very rough on you, especially now, in high school. But it will get better. Once you’re out of high school you can find a better place with better people, as long as you look hard enough. Then the haters will be left with no one to hate.

You can be happy.

Just because you’re not straight doesn’t mean you have to be miserable, or are automatically suicidal. However, if you are suicidal or depressed, get help. Talk to someone you trust, call the National Gay, Lesbian, and Trans Hotline (1-888-843-4564), or get your hands on a book like Hello, Cruel World by Kate Bornstein.

This content was influenced by:

Hello, Cruel World and Gender Outlaw by Kate Bornstein

The New Gay Teen by Ritch C. Savin-Williams

and this article.